Hi Lorna,

It sounds as if your Dad will be very comfortable at home with all you have arranged for him.
Enjoy your day at work today.
Thinking of you.
Love, Doreen xx

How lovely to know your Dad has such a special relationship with Mhairi. She sounds a very caring young lady. Pleased to hear your Dad is managing to eat a little and is happier in himself. You take care, too, Lorna
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Hello Again,

I came home early today, as I am so tired, my brother visited tonight with his family. I have also made up with mum, I really need her support and she will help in any way she can. I really need my brothers to make more effort as I am exhausted with all the running about I am doing, they have families but I do too.

Plus my husband is absolutely choking with the cold. I think he picked it up during his 6 flights to and from Romania. He is sleeping at the far side of the house as I cannot afford to get the cold or germs to pass on to dad.

I really hope dad keeps picking up each day, he goes up and down. When rested he looks really well all things considered.
I'm off to collect my middle daughter from work as my husband is in bed ill.

It never rains but it pours. Lets hope things improve rapidly.

Lots of love Lorna xx

(((((((Lorna)))))))))))) really really big hugs for you right now.

I so know how your feeling right now. I am going through this with my dad who has been seriously ill since christmas and after two operations started chemo on friday. It has not gone well and has had an extreme reaction to the infusion and tablets. Am living on my nerves right now and sick with worry. I wish I was not wheelchair bound and disabled and could do more than just sit with him whilst having all the treatments. It frustrates me so very much.

Just know if you ever want to vent and just let it out please feel free to message me.

Sending you lots of love and strength to carry on.

Love
Belinda
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Hi Lorna

I am so sorry to hear about the further problems. Hopefully the hospital will now have sorted some suitable pain relief (for goodness sake, they should have sorted this before they discharged him!) and your Dad is starting to feel better. You are a wonderful lady Lorna and your Dad must be so proud of you for the care and attention you are giving him. Hang on in there, it is hard, but you will get there. I was up half the night in pain, we could have talked! If you ever fancy a chat do get in touch with NRAS for my details.

Don't forget to look after yourself

Lyn x

Hello Lorna

Just sending you a big ((((((((((HUG))))))))))

Hope that things are better for you and your dad today.

Take Care

Love Paula xx

Hi Lorna,

Sorry you`ve had further upset with your dad - I hope when you go tonight you will find him a bit better. It`s a constant stress, hospital visiting, and then the after-care. My dad lives very near, but even so my heart lurches if the phone goes late at night.

Thinking of you,

Kathleen C x

Dear Friends,

Things are getting harder by the day now, my dad is very weak and is still in hospital. He hopes to be home next week with a care package to help him. I will still be there to help but there will be lots of help too. It is so very difficult to comprehend as time is now running out, I didn't see things coming so soon but there is so much I want to do and he is no longer able. I want to make things as easy as possible for him, and make his time left as fulfilled as possible.

Thing is I don't know where to start, I have cried so much the last few days. I feel strong for a while and then I crumble. No one can prepare you for losing a parent, it's the hardest thing in the world to watch someone close to you dying. I do not want dad to suffer, he is on 24hr pain relief now and is hurting so bad at what is happening. He has so much to say and not the words to say them. What must be going on in his head is mind blowing.

It frightens me a bit too if he is really able to be home, as in the hospital he has constant care. He told me tonight he would not see my daughter get married next year, I told him I know but he would still be part of things. We have showed him the photos of the girls in the dresses and my daughter in her bridal gown. I came out of his side room and cried all the way home. Why is life so difficult at times?

Thank you for being there for me.

Love Lorna xx

Hi Lorna

So sorry to hear about your dad. It is very hard isn't it. When my mum came out of hospital I made sure her care package was set up so that I wasn't needed. I did this to make sure that everyone else was doing what was needed and when I was there I was an 'extra' so I could spend time talking with her and doing the odd few things that she wanted done, that weren't essential. This did take a lot of the stress out of the situation for me and my family. I still went over a great deal; but knew that she would be physically looked after and fed and watered without needing me. It just gave me some quality time with her.

We had macmillain nurses too and they were brilliant, she had meals provided when she felt like eating and I put some microwave ready meals in the freezer, so I could cook me something quickly as well if I was there. THe OT's arranged a hospital bed too which was lovely and comfortable too.

She used MST (long acting morphine) and my dad in the past had morphine injections which helped.

You could just read to him if conversation is difficult. I must admit I shed a lot of tears - that is normal and will help you.

I remember my dad asking: 'is there an aeroplane to heaven' - that was so hard to hear, but I could understand why. We had such mixed emotions.

Thinking and praying for you lots
Anne xx